Is it time to be a bit selfish. Being Mr Nice guy does not seem to work or help at least in my current situation. I have been betrayed in a way I did not expect and by the people that I trust. Maybe it was blind trust. Looking back, I think of all that has happened, all the smiles, all those nice things people say in your face. How does it feel to realise that they do not mean what they say? To realise that their smiles are just like cosmetics?
I now think sometimes we have to be selfish to be successful in life, to achieve those goals and ambitions otherwise people will continue to use you.
I use to think things were okay and people mean what they say, until my wife had to be hospitalised for a week whilst she recovered from surgery.
What happened makes me question some people’s integrity and professionalism. What happened at my work place during this times is what affected me most. To say I’m angry will be trying to be diplomatic, I feel worse than that.
Thank God my wife is recovering.
At least now I know the type of people I work with. I used to think they are a nice team to work with. There are some nice people I work with but there are these few individuals who have shown that they are nasty, uncaring and selfish lot. What a bunch of cowards.
How I wish they could have the balls to say all those things in my face then we sort things out, rather than feed their gossip egos with my wife’s illness. She was being looked after in hospital and I had not asked for any help from these people. So what was their concern?
All they seem to care about is that I go to work, God knows what would happen if they were my employer. Give me a break, when it comes to my family I will not be forced to choose work or my family. My family comes first. My son is very important to me and I will always make sure he is well looked after as much as I can.
There are those who care and have been very supportive during this time when my wife has not been well. Those who value life and other people’s rights. There will be a different post about that. God bless them!
I have learnt another lesson, but should I be selfish and throw away this Mr Nice guy image? At least for now I’m proud to follow my late mother’s legacy. Treat other people as you would want to be treated.
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April 22, 2008 at 12:03 PM
It is good to hear your wife is recovering, as far as the fools at work sometimes you just have to love people through thier ‘Idiocracy’.
April 22, 2008 at 6:04 PM
Hi debo, thanks for your comment. I think I just have to forgive and forget otherwise I end up being like them.